What is Relationship Counselling?

Relationship Counselling is a way of exploring what might have happened in current or past relationships in order to understand the ways in which changes might be made and relationships improved.

The problems you are facing might have arisen because communication has broken down; your sexual relationship has broken down; one of you might have had an affair; there may be depression, bereavement, loss and anxiety present; or you may be involved in an abusive relationship. You may have recently had a new baby, or perhaps a child has left home. These can both cause disruption and sometimes relationships need to be renegotiated in order to manage changed circumstances. Whatever the issues are, counselling provides a place in which to think and to talk about both the past and the future – and to explore the possibility of change.

You will need to feel safe to talk about the issues that are troubling you and, after an initial assessment, the work will go at your pace and in a style that suits you – be it supportive or more probing and challenging. The counselling can feel daunting in the beginning, and can be painful at times, but we hope to bring warmth, common-sense (and sometimes humour) to help clients with the process.

Who Might Benefit?

Counselling covers the entire spectrum from very new relationships, to long-term marriages and also includes help with managing separation and divorce when it is agreed that this would be the best possible outcome.

It is also useful for individuals who are not necessarily in a relationship but who have recognized a pattern in past relationships which they would like to make some changes to for the future.

What does it Cost?

Sessions last for 60 minutes and usually take place on a weekly basis at the same time each week, although Relationship Counselling York is usually able to offer some flexibility, when necessary.

The cost of each session is £50 and fees are normally paid at the end of each session. Cancellations will be charged in full if less than 48 hours notice is given and if an alternative time is not possible.

Sue Andrew, York Relationship Counselling

Relationship Counselling York

Relationship Counselling York has been established by Sue Andrew following her move to Yorkshire from London. She is working on her own, under professional supervision, and continuing a private practice which has been established for over 10 years.

Professional Qualifications

Relate/London Marriage Guidance Council

  • Certificate in Marital/Couple Counselling 1991
  • Diploma in Marital/Couple Counselling 1992

Tavistock Institute of Marital Studies

  • Certificate in the Psychoanalytic Study of the Couple Relationship 1995

British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy

  • Accredited Member (No. 513693) since 1995

Professional Experience

  • Relate counsellor for over 20 years
  • Private relationship counsellor/psychotherapist for over 10 years
  • Relate Licenced Practitioner 2012/2015.
We thought our marriage was over. Counselling has helped us to look at what had gone wrong between us and how we could put it right If we had let things carry on, we might have lost the relationship for ever.”


What if my partner won’t come with me?

You may come on your own or as a couple for counselling.

Is counselling only available to heterosexual couples?

No, counselling is equally available for same sex couples.

What happens at the first session?

You will be invited to talk about your difficulties, and ask any questions you might have to establish whether counselling may be helpful to you.

You will be asked for some basic information about yourself such as your current relationship status, whether you have children, your sate of health and whether you have any previous history of therapy or counselling.

How many sessions will I need?

This is a difficult question to answer because it depends largely on the nature of the difficulties you are bringing. Some people can find that as few as 6 sessions can be useful, others will remain in counselling for an extended period of time because that is what is working best for them.

How long does a session last?

A session will last for up to an hour.

How often do I have to come?

Counselling is most effective when undertaken on a regular basis. Clients are therefore asked to commit to attending on a weekly basis, at the same time each week – although some flexibility is possible.